There is a saying
“look after the pennies and the pounds will look after themselves”,
I think the same is true in parenting.
As parents we worry about the big things,
our childrens education, relationships, friends, achievements.
However if I look back on my own childhood,
with the benefit of hindsight,
it is the little things I remember.
I remember my mom always being at home,
waiting for us when school was over.
I can remember coming home sometimes,
to discover she had cleaned and tidied my bedroom,
or surprised me with something she had seen me admire.
I can remember when my dad got sick,
and could no longer walk or leave the house.
He would ask my mum to buy freesias,
a most beautiful scented flower,
and put them by my bed.
I can remember the jokes and laughter,
that to me sum up my childhood,
and the happy days I spent in my family home.
It is clear to me.
My childhood memories are rich.
My parents seem to have understood,
that by looking after the little things,
showing us in so many ways we were loved and cherished,
that when the time came,
we would have everything we would need,
to survive the bigger battles.
I am now a parent too.
Today as I watched my children,
having fun in the sun,
joking and arguing together,
I thought to myself,
“these are the pennies of our lives”.
The many small insignificant moments,
that will hopefully add up,
to a wealth of happy memories for my children.
Memories that will bond my family,
and hold them together,
for whenever difficult times come their way.
So maybe I should be paying more attention,
to the many small moments,
each and every day,
where I could put another penny in the bank.
We are all living much more busy lives,
than our parents did.
But if I can look after the pennies,
maybe the pounds will look after themselves!