When my eldest child was twelve years old,
we had a busy house with three younger siblings,
and two more girls we minded by day.
This was to be a half hour one night per week,
where we sat together alone and watched tv.
She was delighted with the idea.
I also had a secondary plan.
She was growing up,
this would be an opportunity for her to be alone with me,
giving her a chance to ask any questions she might have,
about puberty, sex, or whatever.
Her biggest wish at the time was to watch “Friends”.
It seemed to be on every channel every evening.
I had refused to let her as I felt the content above her years.
So I began to watch it regularly,
and try to view it through her eyes.
The more I watched it the more I felt it was suitable viewing.
In fact better than that it might even prompt a few questions.
So after I had viewed about ten episodes, with her in mind,
I announced that not only would we have “girls night”,
but we would be watching “friends”.
She was delighted.
We got the popcorn out,
put the smallies to bed,
and sat on the couch for our first official night.
I was fairly smug as I sat there.
This was ticking all the boxes,
a chance for her to ask questions about anything she might see,
and both while watching a show I love.
And so it began.
To this day I will never forget our first night.
The entire episode was about Chandler.
He was IMPOTENT!
And they recommended he resort to PORN!
Oh help me.
We had had “the talk”,
but impotence and porn definitely did not feature!
I sat transfixed, watching the tv.
She sat happy as can be.
I was sweating, waiting for the questions.
When it was over she was buzzing.
Can we do this every week?
I was still traumatized.
What? No questions?
Eventually I asked straight out,
“Did you understand what this was about?
“Impotence and porn?”
She looked at me and laughed, very relaxed.
“Yes Mum, I understood ALL of it”.
It would appear that it was I who got the education that night.
I learned that my child was a lot more savvy than I thought.