“Hi, how are things?”, is how we greet each other, in an upbeat voice, as we deliver the mandatory kiss on the cheek. “Any news?“, we continue. “No none at all, all good thanks”. And then we pause….. And in that moment, as silence takes hold, we communicate on a whole different level. Looking at you … More The conversation within silence.
The weather and time have changed and as if overnight we now live in a beautiful country of sunshine and long evenings. As I step outside the air even seems to smell of Spring and the promise of Summer. Could it be that we could possibly have another Summer of good weather? Two in a … More The first Summer without you.
When our young friend Dan died in November it sent a seismic shock through our village. It was the second death of a child within three weeks. Understandably it affected many, with hundreds coming to see him off. I have met some mothers who told me that as they passed the church that day, knowing … More The ripple effect.
“Oh my God, he’s gone! He died. He actually died!” These are the thoughts that arrest me, out of the blue regularly. I might be driving, or out buying groceries, perhaps out having fun with friends, or teaching at the pool, when without any warning I remember. Dan died. When this moment hits it quite … More Gone.
Grief is a strange emotion. For a time it is all consuming. Eating into my every moment. And then it begins to recede. Burrowing deep inside me, taking up residence next to my heart. It becomes a lurker, on occasions out of nowhere it rises to the surface. At other times Grief hits me with a … More Four minus one.
Once or twice a week a couple of friends and I go for a walk. It is quite a long trek of about 8km, off the beaten track. This walk has become a huge part of our friendship. Prior to December 2012 we walked this walk with no real cares. We chatted about family, relationships, … More Walking through grief.
Today you would be fourteen. Not yet an adult but not a child. Even though we will mark your birthday today, and think of you as another year older, in our minds eye you will always be thirteen. Perhaps it would be more truthful to say, that to most of us you will always be … More Happy Birthday Dan.
Are you someone who lives with regret? Maybe it’s an old regret, perhaps about your childhood, or schooling, loves lost, or chances wasted? I have regrets aplenty. But if I were honest and could go back, would I do things differently? The past brought me to where I am today. Am I happy with that? … More No regrets.
Today is a day of reflection. The last day of the year. I decided to use it to look back, on this my very first year as a blogger. I began to blog late January, and have posted almost daily since then. As I re read some of my posts today, I must say I … More My most viewed posts of 2013.
Christmas Eve is such a wonderful day when you have children. It is full of anticipation and excitement thinking of the special visitor who will be calling later. From early morning my youngest had acted like the town crier, “One more day”, was her mantra. All the presents were wrapped and under the tree. Much feeling … More A Christmas miracle or wonderful coincidence?