I understand why #metoo is trending. I acknowledge it is an excellent way to highlight sexual assault or abuse. I’m just struggling to add it to my posts.
It’s not that I don’t qualify, most readers know I have a past. So why not add it and lend my voice to the roars?
I’ve been trying to figure out that one myself and I think I have the answers.
You see the thing that upset me most about the Harvey Weinstein revelations was<img class="size-medium wp-image-13502 alignright" src="https://1tric.files.wordpress.com/2017/10/5103209989_1b80ed5dd4_n.jpg?w=300" alt="photo credit: val.pearl Secret via photopin (license)” width=”300″ height=”200″> not the number of girls who have been attacked and forever affected, but the length of time it has been an open secret. At least three decades. Why were so many who knew silent? Why did so many not speak up for the victims?
Statistics tell us that one in four suffer sexual assault or abuse in their lifetime. That is a fact. Why are so many so shocked at the number of victims? He is not the only abuser in Hollywood. There are many more, not only in Hollywood. There are victims working in every industry, in sport, in schools, in homes.
It upsets me to think we must advertise that we are one of the one in four, in order for the world to understand what that statistic means. And, even if society does appreciate the numbers, what will change? Will people speak of their suspicions? Will they voice their concerns or wait for someone else to?
While I am happy to see the #metoo give a visual reminder of the numbers affected in a lifetime, my beef with it is, it highlights a victim. As a hashtag I don’t feel it conjures up the vision of a survivor.
If I were to put up a hashtag I’d like it to be something which tells my story and the story of every man and woman who have added it to their tweets or posts. The stories of hurt, silence, courage and for most… survival.
My preferred hashtags would read…#wounded #warrior #survivor #Iwon. I’ve also a few more colourful ones especially for my abuser, but I think it’s better if I leave those to your imagination.