How old are you?
Is it anywhere as old as you feel?
When we were young our parents were old.
Now we are parents when do we become “old”?
The other day I was out with some people I know,
and they were admiring my purple hair,
(that was a post in itself titled
“I have the perfect face for blogging”)
One of them remarked,
“You can get away with that, as you’re only a young one”.
Now thanks to genetics I know,
I am regularly considered to look younger than my years,
but this woman was not a lot older than I.
For a moment I said nothing,
wondering would I just be happy to be the age she thought I was.
Then I decided to come clean.
How old do you think I am?
She knocked a good 15 years of me.
I looked at her, and again wondered would I tell.
However I decided I would,
so I said “Add fifteen years.
She and the others in the group were all taken aback.
They discussed it afterwards at length,
as if I wasn’t there,much to my embarrassment.
I began to regret telling them.
Not because I am sorry to be the age I am,
but I wondered would they in fact treat me differently?
A few years ago,
my husband and I went away childless, for a week skiing.
It was fantastic.
We had had children within one year of marriage,
so had not had many years as just a couple.
When we arrived I
warned suggested that we say we had just one child,
who was 2 years old, instead of four aged 6-16 years.
My other half had no problem denying our children.
We had a great time, skiing and partying.
However as the week went on our secret came out.
And I know for a fact it was not me who squealed!
As more people found out,
they felt the need to express their surprise.
Most of the comments were along the lines,
“I can’t believe you have a 16 year old”.
This is exactly what happens also in everyday life.
I build up a bond with people through work or leisure,
and we get on great.
Then one day they discover my eldest child’s age,
and they get all freaked out.
Why? What has changed in that moment?
I am still the same person standing in front of them.
I have not aged 15 years in a moment.
My age is irrelevant.
If I act young at heart it is not because I look it,
it is because I feel it.
The age of my children is also irrelevant.
I began having children,
when most couples are trying to find each other.
That is one of the reasons my children are older than most would think.
But why does my age really matter?
What does it tell you and in fact does it change your opinion once you know?
As a teenager and in my early twenties,
I felt weary of life and a lot older than I do now.
Today I am more content and have a lot more energy.
Despite being older I feel younger.
So regardless of my real age,
I am going to live my life glad that I have if anything grown younger over the years.
And I will continue to celebrate the fact that whatever my age,
inside I am still a young girl with a lot of attitude!
However I might just reconsider being so honest,
the next time someone asks me my age,
or calls me “a young one”.