Celebrating Easter, Remembering Ben.

Today, Easter Sunday, is a day of celebration and remembrance to many around the world. So with that in mind, and because I missed organ donation awareness week, I’d like to repost this in order to celebrate and remember a very special boy Ben, and his brave family.

Ben has not been forgotten by so many of us, including those whose lives he saved and the families who love them.

We all like to think we are invincible and will live to a ripe old age. We like to believe our children will also, but that is not always the case. One moment in time can change everything.  This is organ donation week, a week to remind us to have ‘the talk’ and a week to Organ donation.remember those who are missed so badly, but also remembered every day by those who owe them their life.

This month four years ago a small boy was racing into school each day. He was delighting his family with his love of life. No one could have predicted that come October he would be gone. He was six years old.

His name was Ben.

Ben became unwell one night and was rushed to hospital in Cork, Ireland. From there he was transferred to Dublin and flown to the UK. While his parents kept vigil there was talk of a liver transplant. They waited and hoped. Then only a day or so later they were told it was not possible, there was nothing more could be done.

Can you imagine that pain? The shock of seeing your small boy so unwell, the desperate hope that someone else’s tragedy will help save your son and the crushing pain on hearing that transplant is no longer an option. You were going to have to say goodbye to your precious boy. In the midst of that unimaginable distress and pain, Ben’s mum and dad agreed to donate his organs. Ben, aged six years, saved and enhanced the lives of seven others.

Handsome small Ben. Saved five lives.
Handsome Ben.

Today, and every day I feel like telling the world around me what he did. I can’t do that, but as this week is organ donation awareness week I can. It is a week to remember Ben and those like him who saved so many lives. It is also a week to thank those, like Ben’s mum and dad, who in the moment of greatest pain they could ever experience, thought of others.

None of us know our futures and some day we too may be faced with heartache like Ben’s family. Why not take the time this week to think about organ donation and most importantly tell your family your wishes.

Ben’s family participated in this amazing video written and performed by Pa Curran. It features the families of those who received organs along with the families of those who so selflessly agreed to donate organs. Each family is holding a photo of those they have loved and lost. It will make you cry but it is a very powerful video. It reminds us all, that it could be any one of us giving or receiving.

 

As you read this I would also ask you all to take a moment to salute young Ben and his family. I know his family will read this and it would be good for them to see your support. As time passes it is easy for them to believe that the rest of us have forgotten Ben. I’d like them to know that is not the case. Young Ben, unintentional hero we salute you.

(Ben is at 2.24 on the video)

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20 thoughts on “Celebrating Easter, Remembering Ben.

  1. What an amazing boy & family. I will definitely commit our family to organ donation because of your post. Thanks Tric x

    1. Yes. For his family it’s a story of devastation and loss, but what a difference he and they have made to so many.
      Thank you and Happy Easter to you and your family.

  2. The Little Unsung Hero of our Everyday Life! It takes a lot from parents to make such decisions at the loss of their loved ones. But I DO know this is changing your ways of looking at Life. Forever.

  3. Amazing story, I never cease to be surprised by the great generosity people have to one another….I cannot imagine a more painful experience than losing a child in this way…..that his organs gave life to so many is evidence Ben lives on….Thanks Tric for sharing this with me..

  4. Hi Tric, perhaps a year ago it was through your post on Ben that I started following your blog. It is great to see that you still haven’t forgotten him and still are urging people to sign up for the great cause that organ donation is. I signed up for it when I was 17 and convinced my parents too to do it. I hope more people find the strength to sign up for such a great cause and help save lives.
    As much a hero as Ben is, I feel the need to reiterate that his parents were bigger heroes for mustering that courage and agreeing to have his organs donated!

    1. I read your comment the other day and hadn’t the chance to respond at the time. As I read it I was nodding away because it is indeed Ben’s parents who allowed Ben to save so many, and it is each of our loved ones who are faced with such an awful decision if something happened to us. Having had the conversation you and your parents have had can at least make that moment a little easier.
      Thanks so much for commenting. I can’t believe you are only around here a year, it seems longer. Lovely to have you call, as always.

      1. Thank you for remembering to write a reply Tric. My parents are still warming up to the idea of organ donation. They do understand how important it is to sign up for something like this but it’s a hard decision making and it is even harder for me to bring it up with them. But I do hope everyone tries to convince their kith and kin of the choice. In the bigger picture this really will save many!

    1. It’s an amazing video alright, so powerful and the story behind it and all those featured is heartbreaking. Despite that I love looking at it and listening to it, as despite the sadness it’s so powerful.

  5. how amazing that beautiful soul, ben’s family, saved 7 lives, all while saying goodbye to their most precious son. ben would have been endlessly proud of you and forever will be –

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