“I hope you have the feet of a dancer”. A wish for my daughter before she even existed.

I wonder if anyone else has done this?
I have dedicated a special song,
to each of my four children.
A different song for each one of them.

This is the story of my eldest daughter,
and how I chose her song.

Many years ago,
before I had my first child,
before my husband appeared on the scene,
I was sitting with my Dad in his bedroom.
He was very sick at the time with motor neuron disease,
but could still speak.

The two of us were chatting away,small__2862441631
putting the world to rights,
when I heard a song on the radio.
It was called “feet of a dancer”.

The lyrics go like this.
I hope you find the feet of a dancer,
I hope you can sing in the rain,
I hope you find all the easy answers to your pain;
It won’t be easy, what can I say,
There will be trouble along the way;
‘Round every corner there’s terror and fear,
Always remember that we’re here.

I hope you find the feet of a dancer,
I hope you can sing in the rain,
I hope you find all the easy answers to your pain;
I hope you find love and affection,
I hope you find someone who cares;
I hope you find all the right directions everywhere,

A shoulder to cry on whenever you’re alone,
You can rely on us you know;
Nothing too crazy, nothing too dear,
Always remember that we’re here.

I thought it was beautiful.
My Dad turned to me,
with a lot of emotion in his voice he said,
“That is what every Dad would wish for his daughter”,
I turned to him and we hugged tightly.

I have never forgotten that moment.

Years later I had my first child, a daughter.
When I took her home from hospital,
I went searching for that song.
A song I had often sung to my daughter,
before she ever existed.
The lyrics saying more than I ever could.
A song that reminded me,
of a beautiful moment shared with my Dad.

Many days I spent watching her,mewborn kiss
as a sleeping newborn.
That song blaring in the background,
as I sang at the top of my voice,
my wish for her to “have the feet of a dancer”.

She flew the nest a few weeks ago,
with her “feet of a dancer”.
I hope she always remembers,
“there’s nothing too crazy, nothing too dear,
(and) always remember(s) that we’re here”.

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36 thoughts on ““I hope you have the feet of a dancer”. A wish for my daughter before she even existed.

    1. Thank you. I have always loved the fact that I associate each one of them individually with a song. The others songs are so special too. The youngest insisted on choosing her own which meant me ditching the one I had chosen for her, but actually I love her choice. I’d love to know what you choose.

        1. Enjoy! You will be listening intently to all sorts of lyrics now. My brother sent me a beautiful song once “You are my sister” by the Johnsons. I had never heard it before. It made me cry. It summed up our relationship so brilliantly. Good luck with your project.

  1. OK so I am going to take a break from thoughts on a page…every post so beautiful you make me teary eye..yes I am a sensitive person…but gosh you write beautiful stuff…

    1. Aw don’t leave me. I will go back to humor! It was just all this poxy fathers day stuff and then my daughter rang today….. But actually my first love is humor. I will get thinking funny asap! 🙂

    1. Thanks a million. Happily I think writing that post last night helped enormously. My day today was mostly about my husband, although I did sneak a listen to that song and shed a few tears, then parked it said Good bye and moved on!
      My first two children I chose their songs before and just after they were born. I waited on my third and fourth for a bit longer and the appropriate songs presented themselves.

    1. Oh I will enjoy thinking up possible songs she may have associated with you. Whatever about when you were a child imagine what she would give you now?
      By the way I like the new picture!

  2. Beautiful tribute to your dad! My song I’ve always hoped would resonate with my kids was “I hope you dance” by Lee Ann Womack. It holds all the wishes I have for my kids and my grandkids.

      1. No wonder the feelings are so well expressed from the father’s perspective. I have taken liberty to re-blog so that it will reach to my readers as well. It’s a great song. Hope you don’t mind. Have a good one!

  3. Beautiful post, Tric, with loving “Mom” emotions I can relate to, as well as, to time spent with your Dad. I just posted twice about my Dad; he was visiting us from out of town for my son’s h.s. graduation. He’s 93 and doing fine, but it was hard saying good-bye. I’m already planning my visit to him for next month…lovely writing and sharing, thank you! Lauren 🙂

    1. Thank you. I read your post the other day saying good bye to your Dad, it was lovely.You are so lucky to have him around, as I am too having my mum in tip top health. I think “mom” emotions are so common to all of us. Thanks so much for reading and taking the time to comment.

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