What do you want from your blog? Do you want it to provide an income or is it a hobby? Do you plan your posts or open your dashboard and write whatever comes to mind. Do you dream of going viral?
I am wondering this as I sit here tonight. If I were to answer my own questions I would say my blog is a hobby, with no commercial value of any sort. I open my laptop and write whatever my fingers type, to no particular schedule.
As for going viral I always wondered what that would feel like. On occasions my posts here have taken off and I got the message ‘your stats are booming’. It certainly gave me a thrill but it was only a wordpress boom, certainly not equivalent to anything like a facebook viral.
Now you may be reading this and wondering if I’m about to tell you I went viral over the weekend, well sorry to say I did not. But am I really sorry? No, because this weekend I discovered I have no desire to ‘go viral’.
You see over the weekend I did something online I’ve never done before, something many of you here know I have wanted to do for a long time but have been unable to; I published a post of mine about abuse on facebook. It was the one I wrote last week called, ‘What is life like after abuse?’ It was intensely personal, something I’ve no real problem writing about here among my wordpress buddies, but definitely not comfortable revealing to the world of facebook. By putting it up I was letting those in my life, who do not know about my past, discover it for the first time. It also meant it could be seen by not only those I care about and am friends with, but also others who I barely know. However it was a hurdle I really wanted to jump and so I did.
The result was amazing. Within no time at all so many made contact, by facebook, private message and text. It was a little bit daunting as having posted I wanted it to die a death, but minutes, hours and days passed and the messages continued to flow in. I can’t say I got used to the messages arriving, or found the support easy to take, but it was humbling to know so many took the time to make contact with me, to care how I was, and to congratulate me on taking that step.
As well as those lovely messages I also received some from others who had been abused. Those messages were special because I know how difficult it was to actually write and send them. I wont say too much about them here today, as they were sent in confidence, except to say having read them I began to see how important it is to see such posts on facebook. Even though we know so many have been abused almost all of us keep it to ourselves. It’s private and sometimes without meaning to we associate private with secret or shame. Those messages told me I’d made a difference, all I’d really wanted to do.
It is now five days since I posted. The comments have mostly died down and the limelight has thankfully moved in another direction. While it wasn’t exactly a ‘viral’ post it did make me think. I love my blog. I love writing in it and others reading. I am more than happy with my announcements occasionally from wordpress that my ‘stats are booming’, but the big time is not for me.
Don’t get me wrong it is always a delight to read my stats daily and see quite a number reading from all over the world. However what really thrills me most, is that the majority of you chose to read my writings rather than stumble upon them by accident, you ‘know’ me and take the time to regularly connect. So I’ll stick with what I’m doing and tap away here for another while, in relative obscurity, more than happy to leave the world of viral posts to others.
If you stumbled upon this post and have read thus far hoping to figure out how to go viral I apologise, but I do have one piece of advice… join facebook, where you will not find this particular post.