Endings and Beginnings.

Isn’t parenting a succession of endings and beginnings? As we leave one part of their childhood behind something new begins, weaning, walking, potty training etc.photo credit: aarongilson via photopin cc

This morning the children in my locality return to school. Between eight thirty and nine the pavement will be filled with older children greeting friends they’ve not seen for two months, as well as an army of parents walking alongside little ones in often large uniforms, skipping or dwaddling along, as they make their way to school for the first time.

This year, for the first time in nineteen years, I have no child going to junior school. In my misery I’ve indulged myself reading many posts written by mothers about to wave their little ones off on their big adventure in life. Two posts in particular struck a chord with me. One called ‘And off he goes’ is written by ‘Office Mum’, as she prepares to send her youngest child to playschool, wondering if he is ready. It’s a beautiful read, which brought memories racing back. The other is called ‘The night before the day’ and is by Where wishes come from who as I write is saying goodbye to her twin girls as they begin ‘big school’. It was written last night and again speaks for all of us who pondered the night before, wondering where the years went. Again it’s a beautiful read well worth checking out.

Today is not an ordinary day in my house either. We are having our own ‘how did that happen?’ moment. Minutes ago I waved our eldest off as she drove away to attend her graduation. How can it be that she is driving? How can it be she is so grown up? What age was she last week? Surely I’ve got the maths wrong? When did she even finish school, no talk of four years college?14567602125_bb7be178bf_n

As I read the above posts it is she I thought of, remembering all too clearly the wrench she and I felt, as she went to big school; the many days of tears as we struggled to adjust. Then, bang, it is as if we suddenly awoke one day to discover she was not only finished school but college.

Shortly the five of us remaining, will pile into the car and drive off to see her graduate. I can barely find words to write, I am so overwhelmed by how I feel. There are many ups and downs in the life of a parent, each bringing different emotions, but today I feel only one, pride. Huge pride if I am to be honest.

Of course once I have time to collect myself I’ll also be more than a little proud of myself. I mean what wonderful genes I must have because to be fair, where else did she get those good looks, personality and brains from?

Now I’ve taken the time out to write I’d better give some time to ‘what the blazes does a person wear to a graduation when they don’t do dresses?’

Well done my first born, our first graduate. As you can see I’m a little bit proud.Β xxx


25 thoughts on “Endings and Beginnings.

    1. I really loved your post. It spoke for all mothers and as I said brought back so many memories even though my ‘little ones’ are taller than myself.
      Thanks for the congrats. She worked hard, if I tell her I posted this I’ll pass on your congrats. πŸ™‚

  1. Many congratulations to your daughter, what a wonderful achievement! You must be so proud. Thanks ever so much for the mention. It’s so lovely to see parents at the other end of the education line and know that I’m not imagining it when I think I’ll blink and miss it! Oh, these milestones… they just keep coming!

    1. Your post perfectly captured that ‘Wow where has the time gone?’. I loved it, and although years apart I could identify with it completely. It was one of those which live on in your mind after you’ve read it.
      I hope their day went well, and you got through the morning okay.

  2. Congratulations to your daughter, and to you for being the parent of a graduate, and steering her in the right direction, and of course you will have a wonderful day celebrating.

  3. Congratulations to your graduate and to you! Tears when they start school and tears when they finish. Sigh…being a parent is hard, but rewarding, work!

    1. Isn’t it indeed Deb. It was lovely to see her graduate, but as I sat there it was hard not to miss the little girl she used to be. Mind you that thought didn’t last too long.

      1. I still miss my little girls. The babes that needed me and who thought I was the smartest person they knew! Then I remember the diapers and such and think twice about all of that..and the drama of teenage years when I became the dumbest person they knew! LOL

  4. I hope everything goes well on the big day. I’m not sure I can help you much with clothing thing. My default answer (a suit and tie) probably isn’t very appealing.

    On the topic of children, I went to my ex-boss’s house for a barbecue a while back. I had been to his house once or twice before, but not for a number of years. I said hello to his wife and then looked round to greet his little boy.

    “Where’s your son, then? Out playing with his friends?”
    “No, he’s taken the car down to the supermarket to buy the beer.”

    It was at that point I realized time also applies to other people.

    1. We’d a great day. It’s a strange one when you see them drinking, getting dressed up or driving (not after drinking!), but it can work in my favour too. πŸ™‚

  5. Pass on my congratulations to your daughter.
    It’s crazy how quickly time seems to go by when you look back at everything, but when in the midst of it, time seems to go so slowly. I used to wish for quiet evenings when we had dinners, and baths and homework to do before bed, and now there are so many quiet evenings, I don’t know what to do with myself because the boys are out doing their own thing.

    1. Thank you. I know it’s crazy how childhood can seem to be endless and then it is as if overnight it changes. When they all go back to school and college next week my house will be so quiet I can’t even imagine it.

    1. Thanks Colleen. We had a wonderful day. I loved the whole ceremony, which I hadn’t thought I would and as a family day out it was perfect (apart from the lashing rain).

  6. I’ve gotten past the last 50 years without wearing anything without a straddle and you will look beautiful in anything you slip into. It’s funny you mention the time passing without notice – the older we get, my dear, the faster it goes.A tip of the hat to the graduate and best wishes for the future! πŸ™‚

    1. Thank you Jackie. How right you are, the days, weeks and years have begun to fly by.
      We had a really lovely day, and I didn’t get too glammed up but enough not to embarrass her. πŸ™‚

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