Is it really better to try and fail?

I have spread my dreams under your feet;
Tread softly because you tread on my dreams.

W.B Yeats.(He wishes for the cloths of heaven)

Do you have dreams of things you want to achieve? Do you actually do anything to make them a reality?

It’s the new year and like so many others I’ve been making resolutions. The majority of medium_3361491810which I haven’t a notion of keeping.
However some of my resolutions are more goals than resolutions.
There are things I’d like to achieve in life, but I stop at the first hurdle.

Because if I go for them and fail my dream is ended.

At least today as I sit here I can imagine my success. I am so sure I can achieve my dream and I spend many happy moments thinking about the admiration I would get from family and friends, on my wonderful success.
It warms my heart to hear them babbling away in my imagination, telling me how amazing I am. I hear them saying “Wow, what an achievement”, or “You must be so delighted”.

In my daydream at this point I smile. The voices are clear. I bask in my own brilliance.
Wow, I really am amazing!

It is usually around this point my dream begins to fizzle and die.
I hear other voices butting in.Β “Are you mad?”. “What makes you think you can do that”.
“You’re really fooling yourself”.
And the one which finishes my dream completely, “You can try, but I’d say your wasting your time”.

With that I usually quickly stop dreaming.
I have no hope of success.
I’d be foolish to even try.
Reality bites.

Reality is not such a pleasant place.
That is why I need to dream. I love to dream.
Is the chance of failure really worth losing my dream?

photo credit: Diamond Geyser via photopin cc

33 thoughts on “Is it really better to try and fail?

  1. There are two things to consider when dreaming: 1) If you are passionate about your vision, then you will enjoy each step of the journey. 2) Dreamers wait for their ship to come in; those passionate about their vision swim out to meet the ship.

    1. Mmmm. I wonder. I do enjoy my dreams but I think it might be time to bite the bullet. Normally I’m very devil may care but if something means a lot to you it can be a greater risk.

      1. Pffft. I say talk to your family about it and go from there. Unless your dream is to abandon your family, in which case, I totally get that but wouldn’t tell them first.

      1. Ha ha. If you said it me I’d say “Bless you”. I think I’ll do my best to remember this word. Surely someday it will impress someone!

  2. To try and fail is the way to go. If you fail so what? Try again later. Nobody can give you a hard time except yourself.
    I’d wanted to write for a magazine for years but was too scared. I’m so happy I did it. I literally danced in the my kitchen when I got my first ‘yes’. I didn’t think it would happen. I took a risk and it scared the hell out of me. I remember telling people, ‘I’ve started writing articles.. And I’ll keep bothering editors until someone says yes’. I don’t think they took me seriously. I’m so glad I took the plunge.
    Do whatever it is you want to do.

  3. Personally, I would prefer to try something and fail in spectacular fashion than enter my final years on this planet telling people ‘I always wanted to write a book, paint a painting or whatever but never did’.

    It’s probably just me, but I think an entire lifetime spent thinking about doing something and never doing it is horrible, I always wanted to write a book, so you know what I did? I wrote a book, and most people thought it was crap, so I wrote another and another.

    I loved writing so I wrote. It does not matter a jot what people think or say, it’s all just background noise that nobody will remember in the end.

    1. I think I’m coming around J.D. Maybe instead of speaking of dreams I should admit to making excuses! Well done you on your writing. How did your other books go? I didn’t realise you were a real live author. Apologies for my ignorance!

      1. Yeah, go for it. You’ll only ever regret the things you didn’t do.

        Yeah, the writer thing, don’t worry you’re in a long queue of people who have never heard of my masterpieces. πŸ™‚

        The books did okay….one got a lot of good reviews on Amazon and I get a few Euro in royalties into my bank account at least once a month, I won’t be buying a mansion out of it, just enough Euro to fill the car with petrol or buy something to reward myself until the six figure move deal arrives.

        See, that is the difference between me and you, you are imagining the horrible things people will say and I am imagining how my interview on the Late Late will pan out when I win the Pulitzer Prize. I’ll give you a shout out, though. No worries. πŸ˜€

  4. I would think giving it a go and see what happens is the choice I would make. Whether you call it a goal or a dream. One thing I loved discovering when I started taking martial arts is that having a goal/dream is fantastic. But don’t lose sight of the “trying” or the journey there. That’s the biggest part of a dream. Once you get that dream, or reach that goal, it may no longer be the prize you thought it would be. Or maybe it will be even grander. Just don’t forget the value in the trying, the traveling of the journey. πŸ™‚ I know your “try” will be of a huge value to you. No matter what the goal is. You’ll get great value from it.

    1. What a very different way to view it. That is what I always like about you. You’re right maybe the journey not the destination will be just as exciting for me.
      Thanks a million. Most encouraging.

  5. SOMETIMES it is worth the risk! On my way home from work tonight I was singing a Celine dion ballad loudly in the car. You could barely tell the difference between her voice and mine. I dreamt of the chance for my friends to encourage me to sing this song on karaoke night, and then visualized them being amazed by yet another talent that I possess! Are you telling me I should just keep it a dream, and just sing in my car? πŸ™‚

    1. You know Tia, on this occasion I think dreams are good. Maybe just keep it as your special gift between you and your family! πŸ™‚

  6. “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
    Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
    It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.
    We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
    Actually, who are you not to be?”
    Nelson Mandela. Get your bottom on the starting line and get shining, girl. xxx

  7. There’s a test called ‘the rocking chair’ test where you visualise yourself sitting years from now reflecting on life past. What would be your regrets? For most people it is not the things they tried at but the things they never did at all. I try to remember that when I feel as you have described. I’m trying to ‘go for it’. Hope you do too. Goalposts are there to be aimed at. πŸ™‚ x

  8. I live with a man who turns his dreams into reality, he has unshakeable believe in his ability to achieve something, it is both amazing and frightening. I often wish I could develop some of his optimism and believe.
    Go for it Tric and enjoy the adventure😊

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