How long do we grieve? Is there a time before we are ‘over it,’ or a length of time which is appropriate to show your grief?
It’s easy to say, ‘of course not,’ but the reality is most people can only support or understand grief for a short time.
Among those attending will be Daniel’s family, imagining how things might have been. Another milestone missed.
It’s been four years since Daniel died and while there are not many who would believe parents ever get over the loss of a child, we forget that day to day.
Four years is a long time for most of us, but to parents who have lost a child it is a mere moment. Every day takes effort and is filled with moments where the loss is overwhelming. Most of those take place quietly, hidden behind smiles or secret tears.
It can be hard to be of any support, but we can…
We can understand when their parents seem low.
We can remember happier times and share wonderful memories.
We can be aware that behind smiles lie hearts forever broken.
We can remember them on Mother’s Day, or Father’s Day, milestones and birthdays.
Or as I do today, Graduation day.