“What’s wrong?”

Men brave enough to ask their partners this question,
I salute you.

Men who dread asking this I suggest you read on.

Isn’t it incredible that even to those we are closest to,small__6191679822
we often cannot answer this honestly?

Isn’t it strange that we can undress and reveal all to someone,
and yet not be able to show them how we really feel, tell them what is really bothering us?.

Sometimes I wonder is it all a test?

Are we deliberately not telling in order to see if our partners;
1.Notice that something is up?
2.Care enough to try to figure it out.
3. Love us!

We all communicate.
We use language, laughter, tears, hand gestures (not two fingers, i mean waving and pointing!).
We even communicate using silence.
It should be easy therefore to understand each other fully.

However we communicate in riddles.

We smile….at someone we dislike.
We say “I’m fine”…when we are definitely not fine.
We say “I want to be alone”….when we are oh so lonely.
We say “it’s not you, its me”… when it is very definitely you.
We cry sometimes.. but they are tears of joy.
We say ” you look lovely”… when they do not.
We say “see you again soon”… when we mean “never”.
We shout “Get out”… when we wish they would stay.

Men have always struggled with womens inability to say it as it is.
Women have always struggled with mens inability to see it as it is.

However at last help is at hand. photo credit: <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/bourguiboeuf/6888114273/">Bourguiboeuf</a> via <a href="http://photopin.com">photopin</a> <a href="http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-nc-
Modern technology has come to the rescue.
The mobile phone is every relationships savior.
How has it helped?
Simple.

Now a man can text a woman, “Wots up? xx”, or “U OK? xx”
She can then text back exactly what he has done to upset or offend her.

Understanding her problem?
Well even a smartphone cannot help with that.

…. I must confess this is another re post!
Hope you enjoy it. I think originally about 20 viewed it.
I am having a great time with my mum. She has now arrived in my home.
You will all be glad to hear my house was well ready for her arrival.
I think I have actually impressed her!.

photo credit: charliebarker via photopin
photo credit: Bourguiboeuf via photopin

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18 thoughts on ““What’s wrong?”

  1. Love it…Danny always regrets asking me what’s wrong..I make him work for it and then boy, I let it out! But, he’s used to it by now! Have a great visit with your Mom!

  2. we men (well me anyway) are simple straightforward creatures

    we (well me anyway) are not very good at detecting nuances of meaning and the subtlety of the female thought process

    if we’ve done something to upset you, then spit it out – tell us straight

    don’t waste your time, seething inside, getting madder because we are not picking up on non-verbal cues that you’re upset about something

    and for God’s sake, when we do ask if anything is wrong – don’t say ‘Nothing!’ and then get even more mad because we (well me anyway) take you at your word instead of realizing that in this instance ‘nothing’ means ‘yes, there fecken is!!!

    communication problems amongst couples would largely disappear if the woman would just speak to the man as she would to a child 😆

    1. Ah yes reading this I can almost hear how our row would go! I think my husband would write something very similar. I have no idea why we can be up front and blunt about everything else except what is bothering us.
      Keeps you on your toes though! 🙂

  3. This is true, I think it is a question that partners are not always ready to hear the answer to. Glad your house was up to par and you’re enjoying your mom )

  4. French couples don’t work the same way, I’ve had to adapt. It’s simple: you tell him to leave you aone, because he’s done (or hasn’t done) this, that or the other. then he explodes, you both yell, and he leaves you alone until he gets lonely or bored. Communication problem solved. 🙂

      1. The French don’t go for condractictory messages, and they have a very natural way of getting things off their chests, no matter who is around them at the time. This can lead to some very embarrassing situations, though…..

        1. You know the way comments can sometimes inspire a post, well maybe you have one in that? What is normal for you can be something so new to someone else. 🙂

  5. (Silently nodding my head in complete recognition and agreement.) Another nail, hit squarely on the head. I’ve always found it strange that I have no problem writing EXACTLY what I am thinking, but it would take a vice to pry open my mouth and get me to say the words out loud. Most days, I’d need more than 120 characters, though! Another great post. 🙂

  6. I have to say my husband and I are guilty of this! Sometimes I just can’t find the words to say what I mean to in person, so we text through it! Most of the time it works amazingly and he gets it…other times he is still scratching hi head, lol

    1. Yes how much easier it is to apologize or verbalize through text. I too do it and it is usually when one or other of us(usually me) is particularly upset. It usually works very efficiently.

  7. Oh so true about the texting. I would say that it works, it takes time to type out the message and read it before sending. Time to think before saying anything that we didn’t really mean

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