Before we even meet our child we feel protective towards it.
These feelings are magnified when we hold our tiny bundle.
We are sure in that moment,
That nothing or no one,
Will ever hurt this child of ours.
However life is not as predictable as that.
Our child will struggle at times.
They will feel left out,
Lonely, afraid, nervous and sad.
They will experience bullying and exclusion.
For all these moments we hope we are there to help.
However a number of children,
In fact as many as 25%,
Will suffer sexual abuse,
By the time they are 18 years old.
That is one in every four children!
Look around you.
That is a lot of children,
Who will loose their childhood.
A lot of families left broken.
The good news is,
that child sexual abuse is on the decrease.
The most likely answer to why,
In order to prevent abuse we must accept it may happen.
Your child is in very real danger if you believe,
“This could not happen in my family”.
Sexual abuse occurs in every race.
It is not more prevalent in any particular social class.
How can we keep our child safe?
Well recognizing the real danger for your child is the first step.
The next is to educate yourself,
Then educate your child.
We are all relatively comfortable,
with the idea of talking to our children about “stranger danger”.
This we understand,
A stranger, a bad person, someone sick minded,
Might hurt our child.
We speak to them about not talking to strangers,
Not trusting them,
Shouting for help,
Educating our children about this is something we are less likely to do.
Even more frightening is the statistics which say,
34% of children aged 11-17yrs,
Who had experienced contact child abuse from an adult did not tell anyone.
82.7% of children aged 11-17 yrs,
Who experienced contact child abuse from a peer, told no one!
So the statistics are telling us,
It is highly likely your child will be abused,
And they will not tell you.
You have read this,
You no longer have ignorance as your excuse.
Visit the relevant organisations online,
Educate your children.
It could happen in your family.
Please do not let this be a secret your child will never tell you.
I first published this on the parents-space which is a great site for all parents, which I contribute to, as do many others. You should check it out.
It is a subject very close to my heart.