Give me patience! I read an article this evening written in The Guardian, titled,‘Fade to grey, why women should stop dying their hair.’ It has left me shouting at the laptop, so as my laptop appears to be deaf I thought I’d shout here instead.
What is it about women that they need to comment on what other women do? There are millions of magazines worldwide, mostly contributed to by women and all read by women, the content of which revolves around photos condemning someones excess weight loss, while on the following page printing photos glorifying perfect bikini bodies. Women are the first to whinge that ‘society’ is placing expectations on them to be a perfect size and look a certain way, but who exactly is ‘society’?
In my life I’ve had many male friends, none of whom I have ever heard comment on women to the degree my female friends do. It would appear to me that it is women themselves who have expectations as to what looks good and what doesn’t. As far as I can see, it is also women themselves in the main, who drive this. The article in the Guardian, written by a woman, is yet another example of this. Here she is, telling us women to embrace who we are and be proud. For that I am delighted and in total agreement with her, but it is the way she has done it that bugs me. She is telling me what way I should look and implying she knows the reason behind what I do. Really? Does she know me? Are all women the same with no hint of our own independence and originality? Are we all dying our hair for the same reason? Should we all be ‘grey and proud’?
I’m not ashamed to admit I dye my hair. I have done since I was in my early twenties following the birth of my first child and the alarmingly rapid change of my hair colour to grey. That would be great if I liked how I looked with grey hair, or if I couldn’t be bothered dying it. However my preference is dark brown with a hint of purple, so what’s a girl to do? Hallelujah, joy of joys, thanks to a small bottle I can have those exact colours and not a hint of grey.
So Ms Camila Palmer please leave me and my grey hair alone. You may think all women should embrace grey, and be proud to wear it, but it’s not for me. I will wear my purple tinged hair with pride, and continue to race to the hair dresser when I see my natural, grey colour sprout through, because that is my choice. This is where you and I part Ms Palmer, for you are telling us women not to do something, I am saying to us women, do what you want. If you are dying your hair because society tells you to, then maybe question why you do it and perhaps in time embrace your grey and be proud. However if you are in my category and dying your hair because you are a purple tinged, over the hill woman, happy with how it makes you look and feel, then don’t bother reading that Guardian article and continue to dye your hair and enjoy being exactly the woman you are and yes, be proud.