I have three girls.
One is eleven, still very much a child, yet beginning to grow up.
One is sixteen, a teenager in every way.
One is twenty two, an adult to all but her parents.
Often I wonder what will life bring them?
Three beautiful girls growing up in a modern world.
Will they pursue careers before love?
Will they come early or late to motherhood?
Will they be successful in what is still very much a mans world?
I was a nurse. I have been a stay at home mother all their lives.
Did my choices limit their ambitions?
Would I have been a better role model if I had worked full or part time?
Will they find happiness in love?
Will they marry?
So many questions.
Yet I do not overly worry about their future.
I hope I have taught them well using some of the advice I received.
Such as this nugget of gold from my mom.
“Never run after a man or a bus, there’s always another one coming”.
Or this piece of sage advice from my Dad,
Never put yourself in the wrong regardless of provocation.
From their own Dad,
I hope they feel the intense unquestioning love they received from the first man in their lives.
From myself I hope they have learned to love themselves.
To know that when they find a man he should be their soulmate, and equal.
To understand that the beginning of a relationship is as good as it gets,
so if it’s not great…. move on.
To believe in themselves and to dream. Everything is possible.
To never sell themselves short.
And to always know we couldn’t be more proud of them.
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17 thoughts on “What I hope my daughters know.”
This is beautiful. As I look at my little girls, I wish for them and wonder the same things. Although my biggest one right now is ‘Please stay little forever.’ But I know that unfortunately won’t happen like I wish it would.
Yes I’d love mine to stay young too, as it is I can’t believe they are the age they are. I think I’d really just wish for them to be happy.
We always want the best for our children and I think it’s natural to wonder if we did everything right. If we taught them all they needed to know and encouraged them enough to succeed. From what I see in your writing, I don’t doubt for a second that you did (and still are doing) a wonderful job raising them.
I wish for my children all of this too. And I’m going to write out the “never run after a man or a bus” quote for our wall (substituting woman for my boys!!) hilarious, your mother was a wise soul 🙂
My mother is amazing. She definitely made me a lot of what I am. She’s very funny too at 80plus.
🙂 This was lovely! I have one son which I adore but I am partial to girls since they need much more in the way of self-esteem and courage. Lord God, I hope I have done enough!
Thanks Jackie. I have no doubt you definitely have done enough. Any of us who have done our best can do no more really.
Beautiful post, beautiful girls!
They are not mine I’m afraid. I hijacked them from photopin. Mind you mine are even more gorgeous! Thank you and thanks for reading. Glad you enjoyed it.
I really liked your words, I have no kids yet but I think they admire you as much as you admire them! They look like wonderful girls 🙂
Ah they are my internet children. I robbed them from photopin!
Lol, wise decision, I’m sure it applies for them as well!
how beautiful and full of love and caring tric, you are a wonderful mother )
We can only try Beth. If they read this they would laugh and say “oh for Gods sake mom!”.
Beautiful post. Isn’t it amazing watching them grow? Being a mom is truly a gift
Lovely Tric, I hope that our children will know the same. xxx
Thanks Caitriona, although it will be interesting to ask them in years to come what they actually do think we taught them.